“Be Yourself” was a statement that I found to be just absurd. My reasoning being, you are the product of your environment, your interactions, your DNA etc
However I am beginning to realise that, no, you can be yourself, because yourself is the only you. You are the only you. It sounds ridiculously naive and simple. But you are the only one that reacts to an environment the way you do. You are the only one that reacts to a hug, a punch, a kiss, an insult, a lie, the truth, the way you do. There is no one else who will react that way no matter their DNA or environment.
Admittedly this is an odd epiphany but I’ve been trying to be other people. From the well known to the everyday person - Malcolm X’s coolness and style of argument is so attractive and I want to be like him, MLK’s passionate form of speaking I want to have that charisma, that guy who is cool, calm and confident I want to be like him, that super intelligent girl with really profound view points, I want to be like her etc
This leads to feelings of inadequacy and comparison. It makes one feel as if one’s traits are flaws. Something that I genuinely struggle with. My perspective has been entirely wrong.
I am ME. No one else has my traits and my feelings. No one else jabbers on like I do on certain topics, no one has exactly the same passions and ambitions as I do therefore they cannot have the same countenance that I have and therefore I can never have the countenance they have. God gave me a different personality to accomplish something different. The only one I should have on a pedestal is God.
I realise that I must stop seeing myself as an unfinished project rather a unique and different masterpiece. It is this way and with this attitude that I can be better and achieve what I hope to achieve whilst at the same time be comfortable and at ease with who I am.